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Ask the Virgo Girl: Dating After Being Assaulted from an Online Meet-Up

We are so excited to partner with Dr. Walter Hidalgo with a goal of being more socially aware. Here, he answers your questions and shares advice on life and wellness while living in a social media driven world.


I’m terrified to meet my online boyfriend of two years because I was raped. A couple years ago, I was talking to someone online and we made arrangements to meet up. Instead of it being only him, it was him and his friends that raped now. Now I’m in a relationship of someone I love dearly but afraid to meet him. He’s super sweet and willing to meet in a public place or place of my choice but I can’t move passed the fear that something will still happen. Will I ever get over this?

Advice from Dr. Walter Hidalgo: In a #meTOO era it is understandable to have those fears and concerns.  The trauma associated with rape and being violated has long term effects but it certainly can be defeated.  After all, no human is made alike.  What I recommend you do is to meet up in a public place, so that in the event that anything happens, you have witnesses.  Online dating, whether short term or long term, is always risky, especially in the age of catfishing.  So, create expectations and demands of your partner by setting the stage – safe, secure and loving.

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Dr. Walter Hidalgo is an educator and spiritual life coach. He has a masters of arts in Church History and Sociology from Union Theological Seminary at Columbia University and a doctorate of ministry from New York Theological Seminary where his focus was on the intersectionality between Hip-hop culture and socio-spiritual movements. He has taught in universities, high schools, prisons, not-for-profit organizations and faith-based institutions from all over the world. He is also the author of the critically acclaimed book, “Beyond the Four Walls: The Rising Ministry and Spirituality of Hip-hop,” – which is now a web series entitled 73 to Infinity. He has partnered with us to offer one-on-one coaching dedicated to supporting you through your transition in personal and career growth.

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