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Ask the Virgo Girl: Starting a Business with my Married Lover

We are so excited to partner with Dr. Walter Hidalgo with a goal of being more socially aware. Here, he answers your questions and shares advice on life and wellness while living in a social media driven world.


I’m in love with married man. We’ve been “together” for more than seven years with hopes of him one day leaving his wife once he has enough money. I love him so much that I started an online clothing business with him 50/50 and we are doing very well. The business is growing much faster than I anticipated. As the business grows, so does my feelings for him because we created this together – but I can’t help but feel that it may not be enough for him to leave. If things do go sour and he doesn’t leave soon I want to move on but still keep our, my business. Is this possible?

Advice from Dr. Walter Hidalgo: If you made that clear in your contract and business layout, you definitely can leave.  However, I believe you are playing with fire by creating another life for this man when he has not put a close to his current situation/life.  Whenever you mix business with pleasure you run the risk of hurting others including yourself (your business included).  You need to ask yourself – What is more important to me? Taking a risk with this man in hopes that he will leave and you will prosper together? Or, do I make a proactive decision and take my business with me.  Now, you could still partner with him if he decides to stay with his current wife, however, will you be able to keep the boat/business afloat without letting your emotions (and his) sink the ship?

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Dr. Walter Hidalgo is an educator and spiritual life coach. He has a masters of arts in Church History and Sociology from Union Theological Seminary at Columbia University and a doctorate of ministry from New York Theological Seminary where his focus was on the intersectionality between Hip-hop culture and socio-spiritual movements. He has taught in universities, high schools, prisons, not-for-profit organizations and faith-based institutions from all over the world. He is also the author of the critically acclaimed book, “Beyond the Four Walls: The Rising Ministry and Spirituality of Hip-hop,” – which is now a web series entitled 73 to Infinity. He has partnered with us to offer one-on-one coaching dedicated to supporting you through your transition in personal and career growth.

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